Today was a stressful day for me. I had to get up very early to do a job related task that occurs only once a year. None the less, it threw a monkey wrench into my daily objectives, at least for today!
I really hate my job with a passion. That does not mean I always go around all week ruminating and playing my “I hate my job internal videos”. When that is the case then the problem is not that I hate my job – And I REALLY DO! The problem is that I would be using up my free time with my job preoccupation or rumination!
By the way you will hear in many New Age books that we should not hate our jobs or circumstances.
The idea being that it only keeps us locked into the problem. Well that is if the issue is “rumination”. I am very much into “New Thought” and “The Secret” but I could not disagree more concerning saying what one feels.
I HATE MY JOB! I MEAN AND I WILL NOT LIE!
By saying such it is like taking a “shit”. I “honor” my right to feel rather than to accept the dogmas of cotton candy theology! If you are familiar with the 12 Powers of Mind that Charles Fillmore of Unity lectured on, then I am using the “Power of Elimination” that is listed in some of his older writings.
Charles Fillmore, Unity School Christianity co-founder, did list a “Power of Elimination” that is tantamount to a psychic usage of ones bowels. But he would most likely line up with the crowd that preaches to “love my job” and believe that what I find objectionable about it somehow is a internal aspect of myself that I am projecting on to the external world!
Dr. Albert Ellis, the atheist founder of Rational Emotive Therapy, would also be against “labeling” my job or persons with “hate”!
Honoring The Self Vs Honoring The Dogma
I believe it is time to speak ones truth! I HATE MY JOB! To believe the opposite is to dishonor the mind that the Creator gave me and my ability to “feel”. By stating the truth that I really do hate my job I honor my intuition! I honor my ability to examine the world without the lens of dogma.
But wait should we live our lives entirely by our gut reactions and/or feelings?
No! But they have to be part of the dialog! We will never know absolutely what is the best thing to do but by saying “I HATE MY JOB” I get in touch with my inner power instead of dishonoring my spirit!
QUESTIONS:
- Can you distinguish between feeling intense vs rumination?
- If we feel strong hate for a job does that mean we are cut off from are Divine Source?
- Must I treat all circumstances with the same reaction of passive acceptance?
- If we do “hate” is it always justified?
ANSWERS (refer to questions above) :
- I can feel INTENSE HATE for a circumstance or a person but after acknowledging that I can make choices to deal with the situation rather than replay it over and over. If you “ask me” about my feelings then you will get the intense response answer but that does not mean necessarily I am ruminating it means YOU are ruminating about the question!
- Only if I have an “Internal Rule” that says I am cut off from my Divine Source do we interfere with our grounding in being. “The Secret” is that Law of Attraction folks can be dogmatic. They engage in the cognitive distortion of the Black and White Fallacy. Life presents us with more than two choices! We don’t love all circumstances and people alike!
- Oh hell no! Why should we be neutral? We are not neutral when we strive to enjoy life. Yes sometimes that means controlling our reactions. But to believe as some New Age folk do that it is only inside our heads is wrong! Auschwitz anyone? So are you making room for the little Hitlers in your life? They aren’t always in your head!
- That is the danger. We do have to be mindful of our own failings while balancing that with the failings of New Age Dogma!
By writing this I am also helping myself. That is because even though I believe in New Thought, I don’t want to swallow the dogmas of cotton candy theology at the expense of my own self respect! By writing the above journal I help to distinguish in my own life the differences between passive acceptance on one side and rumination on the other. There is a third choice! Be honest and then deal with it!
I DO HATE MY JOB! Honoring that feeling helps motivate me to study to find a new income source! Ruminating about my job increases procrastination. Honoring my feelings that I do indeed hate my job (not merely dislike it) is a motivation to a better life.
Related articles
- Why Ruminating is Unhealthy and How to Stop (psychcentral.com)
- Depression Traps: Social Withdrawal, Rumination, and More (webmd.com)
- Rational Emotive Therapy Approach to Counseling (rumorsofglory.net)
- Trapped in Reflection (psychologytoday.com)
